Yay, Sweet Baboo's sleep is improving! Knock wood!
My friend is still in the hospital, but no surgery (so far) because they are hoping this whatever is clearing up. Cross fingers!
I could use some input on something, and I think this is a crowd with ideas. Daughter graduated college in December, and has been on a long and discouraging journey to find work ever since. She is applying to be a military officer (because it would be a steady career), and also applying for all kinds of civilian jobs in circumstances where every job has a bergillion applicants. My daughter is of course brilliant and talented and tough! She is also very tiny (5'1, skinny), and with strangers, her voice is small and tends to uncertainty.
It occurred to me that she needs to find a public voice that can be authoritative when needed, and that is strong and calm even if she does not feel so confident in that moment. If she goes to the military, she will be giving orders to older men who are twice her size. Even civilian contexts, she will need to persuade people who might be inclined to dismiss her, and to get things done working with others. And she needs that voice even for job interviews -- she can't compete without being able to convey her strengths, and show thoughtfulness and potential.
She thinks of me as an outgoing, take-charge person, and totally does not believe that I am shy by nature. And I swear, I had to learn to fake it in social and professional contexts. There was a time when I was so scared and so willing to please that I never expressed any opinion. I still cannot speak publicly without my knees shaking, until things get going. Apple, meet tree.
There is a lot of advice that I can offer but cannot press because my job as the parent of an adult is to not helicopter. That thing about falling apart in the safety of home is also still in play, so we just had a drama about stupid job notices that don't describe the job or even where it is, and the stupid people who don't bother anymore with even telling one about rejection, and also the stupid rejections.
But -- can you think of examples of small women (or uncertain people) finding or using strong and steady voices? It could be a TV show, a book, a character, a public example, etc.
What's happening in your corner of the universe? Bring your whines, anti-whines, conundrums. Passing the leftover pizza and an array of pre-Halloween chocolate.