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Monday, April 17, 2017

Winding down


We had the almost-in-laws and my cousin for Easter dinner, and a good time was had by all!  Several of the menfolk gathered 'round the BBQ in the rain and got stuff grilled.  Per tradition, I almost forgot to serve two dishes (asperagus and the veggie main dish), but caught that in the nick of time.  I sent everybody home with their selections from the communal  Easter basket, having decided that people in their late 20's and above do not need individual baskets.

Some stray wedding stuff got settled, too.  The happy couple seems to like my idea for picnic decor, colorful  paper lanterns to hang from the trees.  My husband is so excited about the rehearsal dinner picnic that he bought an extra grill, plus another skewer contraption that lets you turn the skewers.  (Both items were tested last night, and passed inspection.)

Today, tired -- but still feeling the glow from the festivities.

Tomorrow a friend from the far end of the state will drive out of her way to come for a short visit and lunch!

What's happening out your way?

65 comments:

Liz Miller said...

A local(ish) acquaintance asked on FB how do you know if you have a blood clot? And then reported maybe having a blood clot but she needed to wait until her husband came home from work because she was currently alone with the baby.

And was then flooded with four bazillion responses to CALL 911 AND TAKE YOUR BABY WITH YOU.

She said, "I can't take my baby with me, looking for a sitter". Whereupon we all said, "YOU DO NOT HAVE TIME FOR THAT. CALL 911, TELL THEM YOU ARE ALONE WITH YOUR BABY AND MAY HAVE A BLOOD CLOT. LET THEM FIGURE IT OUT."

And then I said, "would you prefer to stroke out while you are alone with your baby?"

And she called 911 and got to the hospital.

Moral of the story: when in doubt, call 911.

esperanza said...

Goodness, Liz.

I had to take myself to the ER, when home alone with Sweet one time. I had cut my finger, and it wouldn't stop bleeding. Thankfully, a neighbor was available to watch her. But a cut finger does not equal a blood clot.

AW: Clergy Superbowl Week is done! Nap has been had!

W: All those things I put off until after Easter, plus a memorial service, means that this week is just as busy.

kathy a. said...

OMG, Liz. I'm glad she asked, and glad she got the message finally. xoxo

True story: when my mom had a massive stroke, she must have known something was happening, because she went out and told the neighbor that something wasn't right. Then she went in, had the stroke, fell and broke her hip. The neighbor went over to check, and found her on the floor, called 911. They took mom's husband (who had alzheimers) to the hospital with her, and admitted him for a couple days until his son showed up. So yeah. They can figure something out when the ill person is also a caregiver.

kathy a. said...

Esperanza and other clergy: Yay! It all got done!

But, sorry this week will be hectic with the backlog. xoxo

Liz Miller said...

We did our taxes yesterday! WOOT! EARLY!

Next year, I swear, we're doing them in February.

esperanza said...

We just got ours done last Monday. Having tax day and Holy Week at the same time may just convince me that we really do have a separation of church and state.

We pay someone to do ours, because we like to stay married.

Liz Miller said...

The minister at my UU congregation is leaving us to go to a congregation in Montclair, NJ. They've offered a co-ministry to her and her husband (who currently works at a different church near us).

SO SAD ABOUT THIS.

But happy for them.

BUT SAD. Because she is awesome.

kathy a. said...

We also pay somebody to do the tax stuff, because it is bad enough collating all the numbers, and like Esperanza said, we like to stay married.

Sorry about the loss of your minister, Liz.

So -- my vegetarian tart with leeks, broc, and gorgonzola? I guess this was the learning tart, the one with mess-ups, beginning with using filo dough instead of puff pastry, and continuing through not adequately re-heating it (an oven at 200F will not do it). It still tasted good, and I think I'll stay with the filo dough next time, but add a microwave step before putting the top layer of filo on and baking that to a crisp, so as to get the cheese all melty.

Sue said...

I'm glad your fb friend got the message, Liz! Yes, always best to get these things checked out.

Sorry about your minister, too. But good for them as a clergy couple.

All the things got done and I'm tired. So tired. As in, every cell in my body crying out for mercy, tired. I don't bounce back from the high holy days like I once did. Whew! Anyway, only two weeks 'til sabbatical!!!

esperanza said...

Sue, I had a righteous nap this morning, and teh tired is catching up with me again.

Liz, sorry you're losing your minister. That's hard.

Queen of West Procrastination said...

Well done, pastoral pixies, on getting through another Holy Week! I hope get many righteous naps this week. (That reminds me of how my grandma used to argue that it was fine if she fell asleep during church, because she was "resting in the Lord."

I'm so sorry that you're losing your minister, Liz.

AW: we got through our Easter camp successfully, and E handled every part of it (sleeping at night reasonably well, eating in the noisy dining hall) better than ever before.

W: we're exhausted, and was miserable about coming home (spent the last part of the trip yelling "TURN BACK! WE HAVE TO GO BACK TO CAMP!").

AW: we bought discounted Easter chocolate at the neighborhood grocery store (30% off the entire store this week! They're clearing out before they're replaced by the bigger version of their chain in two weeks), and had an Easter egg hunt at home yesterday. I think we're going to continue to have the egg hunt as a home activity on Easter Monday, as an incentive to get home.

kathy a. said...

I forgot about cheap chocolate day!

So good that E loved camp!

Today, my out of town friend is stopping by for brunch, and then later is a big retirement party for a good friend. It's almost like I have a social life. ;)

kathy a. said...

Oh, it was so good to see my out of town friend!

And even better to see a bunch of people I've known forever tonight, including my friend the honoree. Stories were told, memories revived, ever so many hugs and laughs. The two people hired within a couple weeks of me in 1989 -- back in the day, we formed a "caucus" and remember begging the longer-term people for work -- all of us were there, and that memory is hilarious because nobody has ever since then been short of work at that office. (And this time, we gathered not for a funeral.) Life is very full tonight.

Anonymous said...

Yay kathy! xoxo
--NL

Sue said...

Oh kathy, how lovely!! I'm so glad you had such a wonderful evening with friends.

Liz Miller said...

Yay, Kathy!

Liz Miller said...

AW: Saw my endocrinologist today and he is pleased with the trend of my numbers. I had felt that they weren't moving enough, and have found other places to reduce carbs without feeling deprived (I found out that I don't mind the taste of Splenda in coffee and tea, despite hating diet soft drinks. The more you know! Since I drink two cups of coffee and two cups of tea daily, and use three teaspoons of sugar in each, replacing those 12 teaspoons of sugar with 4 packets (total) of Splenda is a big carb savings).

He told me to add more small snacks of mostly protein + a little carbs during the day to avoid cranky hungry cravings.

kathy a. said...

Good news, Liz!

esperanza said...

Yay for the doctor's good report, Liz! And hooray for old friends, kathy a! I'm getting together with old college friends on Friday, and a newish friend on Saturday, complete with Baboos (this may prove to be a bad call on my part; we'll wait and see).

kathy a. said...

Go, Esperaza! That sounds great.

Today's freakout is brought to you by a soon-to-be first year law student, who totally freaked because she could not figure out how to register for her [required] first year classes, because they all looked full. And it turns out that she *can't* register, because that is done automatically, for all first year students, who all have to take all the basic core classes. Whew!

Mama suspects this was covered in some of the info she's gotten, so I'm viewing this as a learning opportunity, to read all that stuff.

kathy a. said...

Why is it I have so many whines when I host? But anyway, I have these black spots on my lips -- which aren't cancer, and aren't that genetic thing, and I usually forget that they are noticeable.

Which is why we have 6 year olds around, because one of them asked why I had black spots on my lips. So, I said they were like freckles, and I had them checked and it's nothing bad, they just look weird. That seemed to work for her, and her mom (who might have been a little unhappy with the question).

W: but I really do forget people can see them....

Liz Miller said...

(((Kathy))). Sounds like a good learning experience for your 1L.

And I never noticed those black spots when I saw you (twice!) so, not visible all the time?

kathy a. said...

The black spots are worse now. May not have even showed when we met...

kathy a. said...

If I was a more fashion-oriented person who wore lipstick, I could buy a darker color and cover them. But I'm the original lipstick klutz.

The other option is having the worst of them cut out and stitched by the oral surgeon. Which I was thinking of doing before the wedding, but the whole process is not my favorite thing. If I wait much longer to schedule, it won't even be an option. I'm one of those procrastinators...

Queen of West Procrastination said...

((Kathy)) I have a four year old who has fixated on the thin enamel on my front teeth, and how she thinks they look dirty. Small ones notice tiny things that grown ups do not.

Sue said...

Yay for the good report, Liz!

The registration freak-out may inspire a more careful look at incoming information, so that's a good thing, right?

Anonymous said...

Kathy-- I know that all of your people love you just as you are--lip freckles or not! And so do we!
(which is not to say that you shouldn't do whatever you want about your lips)
:) NL

Queen of West Procrastination said...

W: a cold has taken over my child. She was awake with a barking cough and earache at 4am.

AW: we're already booked to see her pediatrician this afternoon (for a new referral to see her allergist), and he wanted us to come in immediately, the next time she had a barking cough, so this is convenient timing.

W: grouchy, sick child, and I'm a little under the weather myself.

AW: Mr. Q is home for the week.

W: which means we're buried under house projects (there's a new bathroom vanity, waiting in the hallway for the kid to finish up in the bathroom, so that Mr. Q can install it.)

kathy a. said...

Good you got right in to see the ped! But E sure has been sick a lot this winter/spring. :( My daughter got ear infections essentially every time she met a germ, but getting tubes when she was about E's age made a huge difference. My son was more prone to chest things, and eventually got diagnosed with asthma -- for him, preventive meds really helped. So, I hope this gets sorted out. xoxo

kathy a. said...

Today I complained AGAIN about an order that never arrived at my house (because seriously, you want me to give feedback on something I never got? And what is with your customer service, anyway?); did dishes; got expert lipstick advice for my lip spots; consoled someone and laughed like heck about the cat who escaped, and then returned to bite his mama's artwork all to shreds; helped some people at the support group; drooled over all the food a friend is making right now; did a bunch of dishes; prepared magazines to mail to my SIL's place; laid in household supplies; consulted with the mother of the bride; sent notes to old friends; worried about some legal stuff; and etc. So it might *look* like I did nothing, but things got done, you know? LOL

esperanza said...

W: Does anyone else do that half-asleep half-awake thing for hours at a time, in which your brain is working and your body only lightly sleeping. I have, for the past two nights. The first night, I wrote a funeral sermon while asleep, pretty much. Then last night, I got a to-do list together while asleep. But it does not make for restful sleeping. At. All.

W: Also, doing a funeral is exhausting. It's been at least 8 years since I've done that, and whew.

AW: Going to hang out with college friends for lunch tomorrow.

AW: Going to hang out with a new friend who might/might not move near here on Saturday.

W: But I'm so tired. I just want to sit in my quiet house and/or nap in my quiet house.

kathy a. said...

Oh, I totally do that while supposedly sleeping, Esperanza. So sorry about the funeral. xoxo Good you will see friends!

Queen of West Procrastination said...

I do that a lot, esperanza. And for some reason I always do that the night before a funeral (but especially if I'm speaking at all). Hugs.

Liz Miller said...

If you follow me on Twitter or FB (and I know you do), you may notice I'm a little pissed off right now.

Just a smidge.

Just a wee tiny bit.

Sue said...

Yes, with the half-asleep half-awake thing. Ugh. It's not terribly restful, but occasionally productive.

Funerals are indeed exhausting.

Have fun with your old and new friends, esperanza!

Sorry to hear E is unwell, QWP. I hope you are both feeling much better soon. It's good Mr. Q is home.

kathy, that sounds like a very productive day!!

Two more sermons to write before sabbatical starts. Today's is going to be a wrestling match because so much of my brain is already on sabbatical, and I can't seem to bring it back into work mode. There's an awful lot of "Look! Squirrel!" going on this morning.

kathy a. said...

Righteous anger, Liz. Anybody who would sell us out on women's reproductive health is not a friend.

Because I still have not heard anything from this stupid company, I complained to my bank, and they will credit my account while they investigate what happened to my stuff.

W/AW: One of my cats has turned into the velcro kitty. She had to be right on top of me all night. Now she needs to be as close as felinely possible to my laptop.

Liz Miller said...

Someone I know in real life who thinks he's capital P Progressive (white. cis. het. male) just asked me on FB "So you would like assurance that efforts to address economic inequality will also address other types of inequality such as women, minorities, immigrants, LGBTQIA, indigenous, and the environment?"

And I just brought out ALLLLLL the receipts. ALLLL of them.

kathy a. said...

Oh, my.

Liz Miller said...

All. Of. The. Receipts.

esperanza said...

Day with old friends was so good, only not long enough. I am proud of my 18 year old self for choosing people who grew up to be such fine adults. We picked up where we had left off (it had been at least 7 years, we think), and shared both joys and sorrows with each other.

Day with new friend tomorrow. I'm still tired.

kathy a. said...

Oh, Esperanza. Isn't that the best thing about old friends? It can just pick right up again. xoxo

kathy a. said...

Usually! I can think of an exception or two. But it is usually just so great to see people you knew from back when.

Queen of West Procrastination said...

I've been feeling a bit quiet for the past couple of days, since finding out some shocking and tragic news (about the family member of a friend), which I haven't been able to discuss with anyone other than Mr. Q, as we wait for this to become publicly information. It doesn't directly affect me (beyond the fact that it's so shocking that it's taking some time to process), but I'm bracing myself for when other loved ones find out (and when my friend goes public with the news, since she doesn't yet know that I know), and figuring out how to be a support.

So, for the past couple of days, I've thrown myself into projects, since there's nothing I can do about this. E went to a really elaborate birthday party (AW: she had fun! W: she got worn out and is now sicker than before), Mr. Q and I replaced the bathroom vanity, and I just put together a photo book for my parents' upcoming 40th anniversary.

Queen of West Procrastination said...

Sorry about the vagueness! Something shocking happened, and it's all over the news right now, but no one (outside of the immediate family and a few others) know who was the affected person, yet. It's weird reading news speculation and knowing more.

kathy a. said...

((( QWP ))) Whatever it is, I'm very sorry, and holding you and your friend in thoughts. xoxo

kathy a. said...

My daughter just located the ugliest plaid dress jacket ever, the one her father wore for his HS senior portrait. Apparently we are not allowed to throw this one out, or donate it. 1974. Giant plaid; lapels the size of an aircraft carrier. It was worn with a fuscia pink shirt, and a very ugly, very wide, and shiny striped tie (fortunately, that tie was lost to the winds of time).

esperanza said...

Hugs, QWP. Holding secrets is a heavy burden.

Um. What exactly is your daughter doing to do with this jacket, kathy a?

AW: Delightful day with new friend. Can't post any photos, because friend's spouse was in town for a sooper seekrit job interview. But Baboos and new friend and I had a good time at the park, we dropped friend back at hotel, and returned to the park for the rest of the afternoon. So a total of about 5-6 hours at the park. Very cool place, with a science center, playground, nature trails, etc.

kathy a. said...

I'm pretty sure daughter and I could agree on burning it, but that wouldn't go over well with one parental unit. Also, we don't burn things here, even after the drought broke. So we'd go with donating, except it is not ours, and he might notice.

Cool about the park, Esperanza! And science!

esperanza said...

Oh, I misread that. I thought your daughter wanted to keep it, but now I see that it's the coat's owner that is attached to it. (We don't burn things either, though it is allowed at present).

kathy a. said...

I have my husband's senior portrait on my desk, because he looks so impossibly young and handsome. Except for his clothing choices, which make me glad I met him later. ;)

p_k said...

W/AW. The 20th was the 1-year anniversary of the date I filed for legal separation and got a restraining order. This year, it was also the date a relevant medical/mental health professional diagnosed toddler with separation anxiety disorder, along with a clear statement that she's specifically having a difficult time being away from me so much.

Anonymous said...

p_k: I was just thinking about you.... glad to hear from you! Sorry for the heaviness of this time of year, and so sorry that your toddler is struggling. But, I am so glad it has been clearly documented.
Hugs and love to you and your children.
--Neighbor Lady

kathy a. said...

PK, I am so glad that you got out. Very sorry that your toddler is suffering so, but hope that she ends up with changes that will help her. xoxo

esperanza said...

PK, yes what everyone else said. Extra hugs for your little one.

W: Tragedy in former town--an 11 year old girl died as a result from an ATV accident. Her family are members of Mr. E's former church. It would be hard if we were there, but it's also hard not to be there. (Rural kids of all sizes ride ATVs, despite warnings from citified folks.)

kathy a. said...

Oh, Esperanza. That is so terrible. Sending love from afar. xoxo

esperanza said...

Also I think I've whined about this before. I think I am just too old, or just too old fashioned, to understand social media grieving.

kathy a. said...

Esperanza -- do you mean, letting it all hang out on the book of visages, or that tweet place?

People cope and sort things in different ways, but those seem really too open for the more personal thoughts.

xoxo

esperanza said...

The facey place. Lots of folks posting photos. The one that sent me over the edge, was a photo of the deceased girl *on an ATV* It seemed...insensitive.

kathy a. said...

Oh,um. Very insensitive. What could the person posting possibly have been thinking? My best guess is, not much. xoxo

Apparently, because our only president has been so very on top of the Holocaust that he forgot to mention Jewish people the last time he spoke on the topic, he plans to be the key speaker at a remembrance at the national capitol on Tuesday. I really don't understand why they can't drag him out the golf course instead.

esperanza said...

W: At a church meeting today, we were discussing handicapped entrances, sidewalk cuts, etc. (yay, church people). Then someone pointed out that the POST OFFICE does not have a ramp, nor designated handicapped parking place. What the actual fireplace? That is a fireplacing FEDERAL building, is it not? It is possible that there is an entrance in the rear of the building or something, but I'm pretty sure it still isn't legal. One of my members says, "that's criminal!" (meaning figuratively). I said, "no, I think it actually *is* criminal." So...before I start googling, does anyone know where to make such a complaint? Because I'm not going to be able to let this one go. Not only is it criminal, but it affects my sweet little people.

Liz Miller said...

TADA!!! You can fill out a form online, by mail, or by fax.

I am still a smidge pissed off. Getting more so rather than less.

Queen of West Procrastination said...

And Liz with the proper places to contact! I'm glad that you're paying attention to the need for accessibility, esperanza.

And so many hugs about the tragic loss to your old church community, esperanza.

Hugs, PK. And extra hugs as you get documentation and help for your toddler. I'm glad that you got out safely.

esperanza said...

Thank you, Liz! I thought someone here might have that information at her fingertips.

kathy a. said...

Go, Liz! And Esperanza, I have an off-blog connection if you need more help.

xoxo

Liz Miller said...

Sending love to the family from your old church, Esperanza. That's so hard.